Eating Dairy and Meat at the Same Table
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The rabbis were afraid that if two people eat at the same table and one is eating meat and one is eating milk they might share food and this would lead to someone eating milk and meat together.
- It is forbidden for one person to eat meat and another person to eat dairy at the same table. This also applies both to poultry and dairy.
- It is forbidden even for one person to eat meat by himself on a table with dairy food on the table or vice versa.
- It is only forbidden for one person to eat meat at the same table as someone eating dairy if both people are familiar with each other. For example, if a person is eating meat at a public table next to someone eating dairy and they don't know one another, it is permitted.
- If the two people aren't friends and wouldn't take from each other without permission it is still an issue for them to eat together one eating meat and one milk. However, if they aren't friends at all and they wouldn't let the other person take from their food even with permission then it is permitted for them to eat together meat and milk.
- If someone is meat, because he ate meat within the last 6 hours, he can eat parve at the same table as someone else eating dairy because that is too far removed from the original prohibition of meat and milk.
- This applies to dairy food and meat foods and not just actual milk or cheese and meat.
Ways it is Permitted
- If they set an item to remind them not to share food then it is permitted for them to eat together on the same table. This only works for two people sitting together but not for one person eating at a table with food of the other type. Similarly, a child doesn't count as a second person since he won't realize to remind the adult not to share.
- Placing a whole loaf of bread that they don’t eat from is considered a reminder.
- The reminder needs to have some height like a pitcher that they usually don’t have on the table or a lantern.
- The reminder should be placed between those eating and not on the side.
- Some say that if those eating purchased the funds for the meal from the same funds or bank account a reminder doesn't work to eat at the same table. Many reject this stringency.
- If the people are sitting so far from each other that they can't reach each other's food it is permitted for one to eat meat and one to eat milk at the same table. This solution might not work for one person eating meat at a table where there is dairy or vice versa. Others allow this even for one person eating by himself.
- It is permitted to leave a meat dish and a dairy dish next to one another on a serving table or the kitchen counter, from where people aren't eating. One should still be careful to leave the meat and milk apart so that they don't spill on one another.
- It is permitted to eat at the same table as someone who is eating something which is forbidden, such as non-kosher, except for Chametz or forbidden bread. For example, it is permitted for a Jew to eat meat at the same table that a non-Jew is eating something dairy that is non-kosher.
- It is permitted for one person to eat fish at the same table as someone eating meat.
- It is permitted for one person to eat fish at the same table as someone eating dairy.
On the Airplane
- If one friend is eating meat and another dairy on two airplane trays one next to the other since perhaps it is two trays it is like two tables. On the other hand, it is technically two tables but it is a normal way for people on an airplane to eat together since that is the only convenient way that they can make the table. Therefore, for friends there's the same concern that they'll share food as they would when eating together at the same table.
- The same would apply to a bus or train with friends sitting next to each other eating milk and meat.
Parve Foods on the Table at a Meat Meal
- A person should have separate meat and dairy salt containers if he leaves them open on the table and people dip food in because meat and dairy might get into the container and back onto food. However, if it is a covered salt shaker it can be used for meat and dairy, though still some have the practice to have separate salt shakers.
- Bread crumbs left on the table after you ate meat shouldn’t be eaten with dairy and vice versa. However, a large piece of bread left on the table is still parve and you don’t have to be concerned that it was touched by meat or dairy.
- Sliced bread that was on the table during a meat meal should be treated as meat and can't be eaten with milk since meat residue may have touched it. Some question how it is permitted to save that bread for another meat meal since one might forget and eat it with milk. However, the minhag is to save the cut up bread on the table to save that bread for another meat meal.
- Salads or parve foods on the table during a meat meal if you take with your silverware that you ate with, the food is now meat and shouldn’t be eaten with dairy. However, if they are taken with a serving utensil then one can eat them with a dairy meal unless there’s children at the table who might be not careful not to touch the foods on the table.
- Chullin 104b, Levush 88:1
- Mishna Chullin 103b, Shulchan Aruch YD 88:1. The concern of the Rabbis was that if a person was eating meat at the same table as someone eating dairy, they might come to exchange food and come to eat meat and dairy together. The Levush 88:1 explains that it isn't considered like a double gezerah since it is very common that a person will make a mistake and share food.
- Mishna Chullin 104b, Shulchan Aruch YD 88:1
- Aruch Hashulchan 88:8, Kaf HaChaim 88:13
- Shulchan Aruch YD 88:2, Yalkut Yosef YD 88:7
- Kaf HaChaim 88:9 and 88:15
- Bear Heitiv 88:2 quotes the Bet Yakov who is machmir but the Pri Megadim MZ 88:2 is lenient since it is too far of a gezerah. Kaf Hachaim 88:21 and Badei Hashulchan 88:3 are lenient.
- Badei Hashulchan 88:2 based on Aruch Hashulchan. Anything which would be forbidden to eat together may not be placed on the table at the same time.
- Tosfot Chullin 104b s.v. keein, Shulchan Aruch YD 88:2
- Raavan Chullin n. 271, Kaf Hachaim 88:16, Badei Hashulchan 88:14, Horah Brurah 88:10
- Badei Hashulchan 88:14, Horah Brurah 88:10
- Tosfot Chullin 104b s.v. keein, Shulchan Aruch YD 88:2
- Rav Yitzchak Yosef (Hilchot Pesach 5767 min 33)
- Shulchan Aruch and Rama YD 88:1
- Kaf Hachaim 88:26
- Shulchan Aruch 88:2, Badei Hashulchan 88:19
- Tur 88:2, Taz 88:3
- Shach 88:5, Badei Hashulchan 88:13
- Gemara Chullin 107b according to the first interpretation of Tosfot s.v. keein. This is codified by the Pri Megadim (Siftei Daat 88:3), Badei Hashulchan 88:15, and Kaf Hachaim 88:10.
- Badei Hashulchan 88:15 isn't sure if the solution of having the food far away works when there is only one person there.
- Laws of Kashrut p. 192 citing Darkei Teshuva 88:7 based on Knesset Hagedola
- Shulchan Aruch YD 88:1, Yalkut Yosef YD 88:2
- Kaf Hachaim 88:8
- Shach 88:2, Badei Hashulchan 88:12, Aruch Hashulchan 88:2, Kaf Hachaim 88:3. Although the Shach 88:2 writes that bread is treated more stringently because we rely on bread as a staple food, the Chida in Shiurei Bracha 88:3 cites the Ramban avoda zara 66b who is lenient. He doesn't conclude whether we follow the Shach. The Badei Hashulchan 88:1 s.v. asur cites the Yad Yehuda and Torat Yekutiel as being lenient on bread unlike the Shach.
- Badei Hashulchan (Biurim 88:1 s.v. asur)
- The Shem Chadash (p. 48a) has a doubt whether or not there is a prohibition for two people to eat fish and meat on the same table since there's a danger to eat them together and dangers are treated more severely than something that is forbidden. On the other hand, we can argue that since in order to permit eating the fish after meat or vice versa you just need to wash you're hands we're not concerned that someone would eat them together without washing his hands. He concludes that it is permitted. Kaf HaChaim OC 173:6 is lenient when two people are eating together but strict when one person is eating with multiple foods on the table. Since eating fish and meat is dangerous we're not concerned that people will come to eat them together. However, Kaf HaChaim YD 116:35 seems to contradict himself and is strict even for two people eating at the same table. Yalkut Yosef (YD 87:84, Isur V'heter v. 3, p. 315) rules that it is permitted since it is dangerous we're not concerned that people will eat them together. This approach can also be found in Yabia Omer YD 6:9. Ohel Yakov 88:7 writes that the minhag is to be lenient to leave fish such as herring on the table even when someone is eating meat. He cites the Shevet Halevi 6:9 as lenient. See also Chelkat Binyamin 116 s.v. shelo.
- Yalkut Yosef (YD 87:84, Isur V'heter v. 3, p. 315). Even though some say that it is forbidden to eat fish with dairy based on Bet Yosef 87:3, nonetheless, there is no issue with having two people eating fish and dairy on the same table as the Mishna Chullin 103b explicitly states that it is permitted to eat dairy at the same table that there is fish.
- Maadanei Yom Tov Kitzur Hil. Basar Bchalav p. 30. Rav Gamliel Rabinowitz (Maadanei Hashulchan etc), from meah shaarim, says that you need heker. He discusses this case in his teshuvot Maadanei Melachim 78:4. Rav Moshe Rachamim Shuiv from bnei brak, in Mechkarei Eretz YD 4:4 argues that we never found the gezerah on two tables that are small and close to each other. Hashulchan Hashalem by R' Elazar Ochana 5:5 is lenient for any people eating on a bus, train, or plane on their laps or trays next to each other since they're not eating at the same table. He cites Hilchot Basar Bchalav of R' Hofshteter 2:94.
- Hashulchan Hashalem by R' Elazar Ochana 5:5
- Rama 88:2, Kaf Hachaim 88:29
- Badei Hashulchan 88:30
- Shulchan Aruch 89:4
- Badei Hashulchan 89:99, Igrot Moshe YD 1:38
- Yerushalmi Pesachim 6:4, Shulchan Aruch YD 91:3. Igrot Moshe YD 1:38 holds that the actual prohibition of eating bread from a meat meal with dairy only applies to the bread which was eaten with meat or sliced pieces that were intended to be eaten. Still it is preferable not to eat with dairy any of the bread that was on the table during the meat meal. Badei Hashulchan 89:98 and The Laws of Kashrut (p. 212) adopt the opinion of the Igrot Moshe.
- Badei Hashulchan 91:17 quotes this minhag and questions it in light of Shulchan Aruch Y.D. 97:1 that dairy bread is entirely forbidden since people might forget and eat it with meat. Similarly, having bread that is dairy because it was touched with something dairy residue should render it forbidden. Chavot Daat 97:6 implies that bread that milk spills on is forbidden like dairy bread.
- Badei Hashulchan 89:99