Scheduling a Wedding Date
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Time of Year
Elul and Aseret Yemei Teshuva
Cheshvan
- It is permissible to get married during the month of Cheshvan.[3]
Chanuka
- It is permissible to get married on Chanuka.[4]
Purim
- It is permissible to get married on Purim.[5]
Chol Hamoed
- It is forbidden to get married on Chol Hamoed because one may not intermingle two sources of rejoicing.[6] However, one may get engaged. [7]
Fast Days
- There are differing opinions as to whether one may get married on a fast day.[8]
Sefirat Haomer
Three Weeks
Shabbat or Yom Tov
- It is forbidden to get married on Shabbat or Yom Tov.[9]
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- ↑ Chacham Yitzchak Yosef (Yalkut Yosef Sova Semachot 1:2:1) and Chacham Ovadia Yosef (Shu”t Yechave Daat 1:48) write that there is no reason to prohibit this. Sdei Chemed Maarechet Chatan Vikallah Siman 23 writes that he got married during Elul and many of the gedolim were present.
- ↑ Mateh Ephraim 602:5 and Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 130:4 write that since they are days of judgment one should avoid getting married then. Rav Dovid Tzvi Hoffman (Melamed Lehoil EH Siman 1) argues that the merit of getting married could help gain a favorable judgment. He writes that common practice was to allow weddings during this time, and that he himself got married on the 6th of Tishrei. Shu”t Yechave Daat 1:48 agrees. Interestingly, Yalkut Yosef (Sova Semachot 1:2:1) does add that, if possible, you should try to get married during Bein Hazmanim so as not to disrupt the learning.
- ↑ Yalkut Yosef (Sova Semachot 1:2:3) writes that although some acharonim (see Shu”t Lev Chaim 2:26) mention that you shouldn’t get married during this month as the name Marcheshvan comes from the word Mar, or bitter, one need not worry about that. Rav Betzalel Stern (Shu”t Bitzel Hachochma 2:60) writes that the name for the month has nothing to do with the word for bitter and, therefore, agrees that we need not be concerned.
- ↑ Nitei Gavriel 48:37, HaNisuin Kihlichatam 5:17. Regarding where the chatan should light Chanuka candles on his wedding night, see Piskei Teshuvot 677:5 and Lighting Chanuka Candles: A Wedding on Chanuka on Halachipedia.com.
- ↑ Shulchan Aruch 696:8, HaNisuin Kihilchatam 5:16. In fact, Rabbi Shlomo Zalman Auerbach’s wedding took place on Friday of Purim Meshulash, 5690 (1930) so as not to conflict with the yeshivah learning schedule (Rabbi Hanoch Teller, And from Jerusalem His Word: Stories and Insights of Rabbi Shlomo Zalman Auerbach zt”l pg. 36).
- ↑ Moed Kattan 8b says אין מערבין שמחה בשמחה. This is codified in Rambam Hilchot Yom Tov 7:16, Shulchan Aruch OC 546:1 and EH 64:6, Yalkut Yosef (Sova Semachot 1:2:4).
- ↑ Shulchan Aruch OC 546:1, Mishna Brura 546:2, Yalkut Yosef (Sova Semachot 1:2:4).
- ↑ Chacham Ovadia Yabea Omer EH 6:7 writes that you can technically get married even during the day of a fast, but ideally should do it either the night before or the night after. Rav Moshe Feinstein OC 168 says it’s asur to get married during the day of the fast, but one can get married the night before. Tzitz Eliezer 7:49 prohibits even this (see HaNisuin Kehilchatom 5:44-45 for sources on opinions in both directions). Rabbi Yosef Dov Soloveitchik felt that weddings should not be held on fast days (Nefesh HaRav, p. 196).
- ↑ Beitza 36b, S”A OC 339:4 and 524:1, and EH 64:5, Yalkut Yosef (Sova Semachot 1:2:8) write that one cannot get married on Shabbat or Yom Tov since a wedding involves a legal transaction that cannot be contracted on those days. Additionally it may cause one to write. Yalkut Yosef (Sova Semachot 1:2:8). Aruch Hashulchan 26:14 states that if a wedding is performed on those days, it is valid.
