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# One needs a Minyan to say Birkat Chatanim, includining the Chatan.<ref>The Gemara 7b-8a says that Birkat Chatanim needs a Minyan, based either on Boaz or a the Pasuk in Tehillim, "BaMakhelot Barechut et Hashem." The Rishonim (see [[Kiddushin]]), debate whether or not this extends to Birkat Erusin as well or not, but they all agree that Birkat Chatanim does require a Minyan.<br />
# One needs a Minyan to say Birkat Chatanim, includining the Chatan.<ref>The Gemara 7b-8a says that Birkat Chatanim needs a Minyan, based either on Boaz or a the Pasuk in Tehillim, "BaMakhelot Barechut et Hashem." The Rishonim (see [[Kiddushin]]), debate whether or not this extends to Birkat Erusin as well or not, but they all agree that Birkat Chatanim does require a Minyan.<br />
  If there aren't even ten men in the whole town, the Rashba (Shut 1:1167, Meyuchasot 185) holds that one absolutely needs ten people, as the Chachamim prohibited one to his wife for whom he did not make Sheva Berachot. On the other hand, the Terumat HaDeshen (140), quotes a Teshovot Maimoni who explains Chazal's terminology of "Kallah BeLo Beracha" to be more colloquial than literal, in reference to the Chuppah itself. The Beit Yosef (64:4) paskens like the Terumat HaDeshen, while the Rama, Chelkat Mechokek 3, and Beit Shmuel 4, pasken like the Terumat HaDeshen that one only needs a Minyan lechatechilah.</ref>
  If there aren't even ten men in the whole town, the Rashba (Shut 1:1167, Meyuchasot 185) holds that one absolutely needs ten people, as the Chachamim prohibited one to his wife for whom he did not make Sheva Berachot. On the other hand, the Terumat HaDeshen (140), quotes a Teshovot Maimoni who explains Chazal's terminology of "Kallah BeLo Beracha" to be more colloquial than literal, in reference to the Chuppah itself. The Beit Yosef (64:4) paskens like the Terumat HaDeshen, while the Rama, Chelkat Mechokek 3, and Beit Shmuel 4, pasken like the Terumat HaDeshen that one only needs a Minyan lechatechilah.</ref>
# According to Ashkenazim, one should make sure that at least 7 of the people there ate bread.<ref>Nitai Gavriel (Nesuin vol 2, 102:2)</ref> According to Sephardim, initially all 10 should eat bread.<ref>Yabia Omer EH 3:11:6</ref>
 
# If only the final bracha of “Asher Bara” will be recited (see below), only three men need to have joined the meal and be present at Birkas Hamazon.<ref> Aruch Hashulchan 62:11, explaining that the minyan is truly necessary only out of respect for the earlier bracha of “Shehakol Bara” and those referring to Yerushalayim. However, at least three men are needed in order to have a zimun for Birkas HaMazon</ref>
# Women do not count towards the Minyan for sheva brachot.<ref>Shulchan Aruch EH 62:4, see Yabia Omer vol. 3 EH Siman 11</ref>
# Women do not count towards the Minyan for sheva brachot.<ref>Shulchan Aruch EH 62:4, see Yabia Omer vol. 3 EH Siman 11</ref>
# A minor does not count for the minyan of sheva brachot.<ref>Yabia Omer EH 3:11:6</ref>
# A minor does not count for the minyan of sheva brachot.<ref>Yabia Omer EH 3:11:6</ref>
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# A child cannot count as panim chadashot.<ref> Nitei Gavriel Nissuin 87:4</ref>
# A child cannot count as panim chadashot.<ref> Nitei Gavriel Nissuin 87:4</ref>
# While many poskim hold that panim chadashot means only one new person, some hold that two are required.<ref>The Chelkat Mechokek EH 62:9 writes that you only need one new person for panim chadashot. This is also the opinion of the Aruch Hashulchan 62:24. Yabia Omer EH 3:11:2 is strict for the Rav Avraham Ben HaRambam (teshuva 86 and 110) in explaining the Rambam that two people are necessary.</ref>
# While many poskim hold that panim chadashot means only one new person, some hold that two are required.<ref>The Chelkat Mechokek EH 62:9 writes that you only need one new person for panim chadashot. This is also the opinion of the Aruch Hashulchan 62:24. Yabia Omer EH 3:11:2 is strict for the Rav Avraham Ben HaRambam (teshuva 86 and 110) in explaining the Rambam that two people are necessary.</ref>
===Who Needs to Eat Bread===
# The accepted psak is that Sheva Brachos are recited only after a meal of bread, after Birkas Hamazon<ref> Maseches Sofrim 19:11 implies otherwise, but the Tur and Shulchan Aruch 62:5 indicate that only after a meal should Sheva Brachos be recited, and this is the ruling of the Aruch Hashulchan 62:26. See Yabia Omer 3:11:6 and Sefer Hanisuin K'Hilchatan p. 512 who write even Mezonos would be insufficient.</ref>
# Ideally, at least ten of the attendees should eat bread.<ref>  Shut Shoel U’Meishiv Telisa’ah 1:198, Yabia Omer EH 3:11:6</ref> However, many poskim allow Sheva Brachos to be said if only seven people ate bread, and some even permit Sheva Brachos to be said if only three people ate bread, as long as there is a minyan in attendance.<Ref>See Pischei Teshuva 62:8, Nitai Gavriel, Nesuin 102:2, Yabia Omer EH 3:11:6, and Otzar Haposkim 62:25:5</ref> Either way, the (bride and) groom themselves should have eaten bread.<ref> Yabia Omer 6:10:9, Tzitz Eliezer 13:99:4, Otzar Haposkim 62:25:6</ref>


==Second Marriages==
==Second Marriages==

Revision as of 01:22, 27 April 2017

Under The Chuppah

  1. Some Poskim hold that everyone in the audience must stand for the Sheva Berachot recited under the Chuppah.[1]

Week after Marriage

  1. The sheva brachot are only recited at a meal in which bread is eaten and birchat hamazon is recited. [2]

Beit Chatanim

  1. According to some Sephardim, if the meals during the week after the wedding do not take place in the house of groom one may only make the bracha of hagefen and ashar bara (and not all sheva brachot). [3]

Minyan

  1. One needs a Minyan to say Birkat Chatanim, includining the Chatan.[4]
  1. If only the final bracha of “Asher Bara” will be recited (see below), only three men need to have joined the meal and be present at Birkas Hamazon.[5]
  2. Women do not count towards the Minyan for sheva brachot.[6]
  3. A minor does not count for the minyan of sheva brachot.[7]

Panim Chadashot

  1. In order to recite all 7 berachot, one must invite someone who did not attend either the wedding or a previous sheva berachot. [8] While some poskim require that the panim chadashot be given a setting, others are more lenient; the minhag is to be lenient and allow calling in a stranger or waiter to count as panim chadashot. [9]
  2. The Panim Chadashot can come even in the middle or towards the end of the meal.[10]
  3. A woman cannot count as a panim chadashot.[11]
  4. A child cannot count as panim chadashot.[12]
  5. While many poskim hold that panim chadashot means only one new person, some hold that two are required.[13]

Who Needs to Eat Bread

  1. The accepted psak is that Sheva Brachos are recited only after a meal of bread, after Birkas Hamazon[14]
  2. Ideally, at least ten of the attendees should eat bread.[15] However, many poskim allow Sheva Brachos to be said if only seven people ate bread, and some even permit Sheva Brachos to be said if only three people ate bread, as long as there is a minyan in attendance.[16] Either way, the (bride and) groom themselves should have eaten bread.[17]

Second Marriages

  1. If both the Chatan and the Kallah have been previously married, Sheva Berachot is only recited for one day.[18]

Practices During the Week after Marriage

  1. A chatan is compared to a king. Just like a king wears fancy attire, so too a chatan should wear fancy attire.[19]

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Sources

  1. ↑ Erech Lechem Siman 61, see Mishnah Brurah 128:51
  2. ↑ Hanisuin K'Hilchatan pg. 512
  3. ↑ Yalkut Yosef (Chupah VeKiddushin pg 301) rules that in order to make all 7 Brachot of Sheva Brachot one needs to fulfill three conditions: 1) it takes place in the house of groom, 2)there’s ten men there, and 3) there’s two new faces. On pg 307 he writes that when making a meal not in the house of the groom the one doing Zimmun makes Hagefen, and asher bara and then drink from the wine. He should also have the bride and groom and groom in mind and the bride and groom should have in mind to fulfill his obligation when making the Brachot and have them taste the wine afterwards. Siddur Kol Eliyahu (pg 916) which is based on the rulings of Rav Mordechai Eliyahu writes that the proper minhag is only to make the 7 Brachot when one is having the meal in the house of the bride and groom. However, some are lenient to have the 7 Brachot said by Ashkenazim who rely on those who say to make the Brachot. Rabbi Mansour on Daily Halacha quotes Chacham Baruch, Chacham Ovadyah Yosef, and Chacham Ezra Attiyah who agree that one can only two Brachot and not all sheva Brachot when it’s not taking place in the house of the groom. See Otzar haPoskim, Sh"t Vayashav HaYam vol. 2, Shemesh uMagen, Ohr LeTzion vol. 2, and Birkat Hashem vol.4 for different opinions.
  4. ↑ The Gemara 7b-8a says that Birkat Chatanim needs a Minyan, based either on Boaz or a the Pasuk in Tehillim, "BaMakhelot Barechut et Hashem." The Rishonim (see Kiddushin), debate whether or not this extends to Birkat Erusin as well or not, but they all agree that Birkat Chatanim does require a Minyan.
    If there aren't even ten men in the whole town, the Rashba (Shut 1:1167, Meyuchasot 185) holds that one absolutely needs ten people, as the Chachamim prohibited one to his wife for whom he did not make Sheva Berachot. On the other hand, the Terumat HaDeshen (140), quotes a Teshovot Maimoni who explains Chazal's terminology of "Kallah BeLo Beracha" to be more colloquial than literal, in reference to the Chuppah itself. The Beit Yosef (64:4) paskens like the Terumat HaDeshen, while the Rama, Chelkat Mechokek 3, and Beit Shmuel 4, pasken like the Terumat HaDeshen that one only needs a Minyan lechatechilah.
  5. ↑ Aruch Hashulchan 62:11, explaining that the minyan is truly necessary only out of respect for the earlier bracha of “Shehakol Bara” and those referring to Yerushalayim. However, at least three men are needed in order to have a zimun for Birkas HaMazon
  6. ↑ Shulchan Aruch EH 62:4, see Yabia Omer vol. 3 EH Siman 11
  7. ↑ Yabia Omer EH 3:11:6
  8. ↑ Gemara Ketubot 7b. See Panim Chadashot New Faces on chabad.org.
  9. ↑ Nitei Gavriel Hilchot Nisuin 2:87:1
  10. ↑ Nitai Gavriel (Nesuin vol. 2, 86:3)
  11. ↑ Nitei Gavriel Nissuin 87:3
  12. ↑ Nitei Gavriel Nissuin 87:4
  13. ↑ The Chelkat Mechokek EH 62:9 writes that you only need one new person for panim chadashot. This is also the opinion of the Aruch Hashulchan 62:24. Yabia Omer EH 3:11:2 is strict for the Rav Avraham Ben HaRambam (teshuva 86 and 110) in explaining the Rambam that two people are necessary.
  14. ↑ Maseches Sofrim 19:11 implies otherwise, but the Tur and Shulchan Aruch 62:5 indicate that only after a meal should Sheva Brachos be recited, and this is the ruling of the Aruch Hashulchan 62:26. See Yabia Omer 3:11:6 and Sefer Hanisuin K'Hilchatan p. 512 who write even Mezonos would be insufficient.
  15. ↑ Shut Shoel U’Meishiv Telisa’ah 1:198, Yabia Omer EH 3:11:6
  16. ↑ See Pischei Teshuva 62:8, Nitai Gavriel, Nesuin 102:2, Yabia Omer EH 3:11:6, and Otzar Haposkim 62:25:5
  17. ↑ Yabia Omer 6:10:9, Tzitz Eliezer 13:99:4, Otzar Haposkim 62:25:6
  18. ↑ Ketubot 7a, Shulchan Aruch Even HaEzer 62:6
  19. ↑ Pirkei DRabbi Eliezer 16
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