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The Nine Days is time period from the beginning of the month of Av until [[Tisha BeAv]] during which there are a number of practices of [[mourning]] described below. While many of the laws below apply to the entire period of the Nine Days, some of them only apply during the week in which Tishba Tisha BaAv falls out (Shevua SheChal Bo). Additionally, these practices are very similar but generally more stringent than those that observed during the [[Three Weeks]].
==Business==
# From the beginning of the month of Av one should reduce one’s involvement in activities of happiness. <Refref>S”A 551:1</ref># If one has a lawsuit with a non-Jew one should delay it until the [[month of Elul]] or at least until after [[Tisha BeAv]]. <Refref>S”A 551:1, Mishna Brurah 551:2</ref> Similarly, if one must have a surgery and it can be delayed, one should try to delay it until after [[Tisha BeAv]].<ref>Yalkut Yosef (Moadim p. 557)</ref># During the Nine Days, one should refrain from buying materials that are needed for a wedding.<Refref>Mishna Brurah 551:11 </ref> Some authorities are lenient if the groom has not yet fulfilled the mitzvah of Pru Urevu and one will not be able to prepare for the wedding after [[Tisha BeAv]] because the wedding is right after [[Tisha BeAv]] or if there is a concern that the price of the wedding needs will become expensive after [[Tisha BeAv]].<ref>Yalkut Yosef (Moadim p. 558) </ref># The minhag is to be lenient to allow one not to reduce one’s regular business during the [[Nine days]]. <Refref>Mishna Brurah 551:11, Yalkut Yosef (Moadim p. 559) </ref># One may not build houses or buildings for business purposes during the Nine Days. However, one may hire a non-Jew before the Nine Days with a fixed sum for the entire project and then, he may work during the Nine Days and even on [[Tisha BeAv]]. <Refref>S”A 551:2, Mishna Brurah 511:12 </ref># If a wall is going to fall, even if there isn’t a concern of danger but only a concern of loss, one may restore it during the Nine Days. <Refref>S”A 551:2, Mishna Brurah 551:13 </ref>==Buying and Gifting==# If there is a need, one may buy furniture if it is going to be delivered after the [[nine days]].<ref>Halichot Shlomo (p. 426, 14:22)</ref># One shouldn't buy important items such as furniture or appliances during the [[nine days]] since it brings a person a lot of pleasure.<ref> Guidelines of the [[Three Weeks]] by Rabbi Elozor Barclay (p. 47) citing Igrot Moshe 3:80 and MeBeyt Levi p. 8 n. 4</ref>#Some Ashkenazim have the practice not to give gifts during the nine days unless there is a need<ref>Nitai Gavriel Ben Hametzarim 1:18:4</ref> but for a mitzvah such as for a bar mitzvah boy it is permitted.<ref>Nitai Gavriel Ben Hametzarim 1:18:6</ref>
==Taking Haircuts and Shaving==
# The Sephardic minhag is not to take a haircut during the week in which Tishba BaAv falls out (Shevua SheChal Bo)<Ref>S”A 551:3, Yalkut Yosef (Shevua SheChal Bo #1)</ref>, while the Ashkenazic minhag is not to take a haircut during the entire Nine Days. <Ref>Rama 551:3 </ref>
# [[Shaving]] one’s beard or mustache is forbidden just like it is forbidden to take a haircut. <Ref>S”A 551:12 </ref> If one moustache interferes with one’s eating, one may cut it. <ref>S”A 551:13 </ref>
# It is permitted to comb and style one's hair during the [[Three Weeks]] and Nine Days and one doesn't have to worry that one will pull out hairs. <ref> Eliya Rabba 551:7, Shaare Teshuva 551:12, Mishna Brurah 551:20, Aruch Hashulchan 551:15, Sh"t Yechave Daat 6:35 </ref>
# A married woman or one of marriageable age may shave her legs even during the Nine Days <ref>Kitzur Hilchos Bein HaMetzarim pg. 4:5 in the name of Rav Moshe Feinstein </ref>
# If [[Tisha BeAv]] falls out on [[Shabbat]] and is pushed off until Sunday, according to Sephardim, it's proper not to take a hair cut the week prior to [[Shabbat Chazon]]. However, in regards to [[shaving]], if one shaves regularly and it's difficult not to shave, one may shave during the week before [[Shabbat Chazon]], especially if one is doing so for [[Kavod Shabbat]]. <ref>Yalkut Yosef (Shevua SheChal Bo #11), Yechave Daat 3:39</ref>
==Laundering Clothes==# The Sephardic minhag is not to launder clothes or wear newly laundered clothes take a haircut during the week in which Tishba Tisha BaAv falls out (Shevua SheChal Bo)<Refref>S”A 551:3, Yalkut Yosef (Shevua SheChal Bo #1)</ref>, while the Ashkenazic minhag is not to launder clothes take a haircut during the entire the [[Three Weeks]], which includes the Nine Days. <ref>Rama 551:3 </ref>#[[Shaving]] one’s beard or mustache is forbidden just like it is forbidden to take a haircut. <ref>S”A 551:12 </ref> If one moustache interferes with one’s eating, one may cut it. <ref>S”A 551:13 </ref>#It is permitted to comb and style one's hair during the [[Three Weeks]] and Nine Days and one doesn't have to worry that one will pull out hairs. <ref>Eliya Rabba 551:7, Shaare Teshuva 551:12, Mishna Brurah 551:20, Aruch Hashulchan 551:15, Sh"t Yechave Daat 6:35 </ref>#A married woman or wear newly laundered clothes one of marriageable age may shave her legs even during the entire Nine Days<ref>Kitzur Hilchos Bein HaMetzarim pg. 4:5 in the name of Rav Moshe Feinstein </ref>#If [[Tisha BeAv]] falls out on [[Shabbat]] and is pushed off until Sunday, according to Sephardim, it's proper not to take a hair cut the week prior to [[Shabbat Chazon]]. However, in regards to [[shaving]], if one shaves regularly and it's difficult not to shave, one may shave during the week before [[Shabbat Chazon]], especially if one is doing so for [[Kavod Shabbat]]. <ref>Yalkut Yosef (Shevua SheChal Bo #11), Yechave Daat 3:39</ref> ==Laundry== #The Sephardic custom is only not to do laundry during the week of [[Tisha BeAv]].<ref>Shulchan Aruch 551:3 based on gemara in taanit 26b. </ref> Ashkenazic custom is to refrain already from [[Rosh Chodesh]] Av. <Refref>Rama 551:3 . </ref> The same applies with wearing freshly laundered clothing even if they were washed prior to these times. <ref>Shulchan Aruch and Rama 551:3, Yechave Daat 1:39 </ref>#One shouldn't do laundry even if he doesn't plan on wearing the clothes until afterwards, as this distracts him from his [[mourning]]. He also should not give it to a non-Jew to do for him.<ref>Shulchan Aruch and Rama 551:3 and Mishna Brurah 551:34. [http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/746977/Rabbi_Aryeh_Lebowitz/Ten_Minute_Halacha_-_Laundry_During_the_Nine_Days Rabbi Aryeh Lebowitz] at about 9:45 also says allowing a non-jewish housekeeper to do your laundry is prohibited even though this doesn't really distract you from [[mourning]]. </ref> Some poskim permit giving a non-Jew your clothing to launder if you specify that they do it after Tisha B'av.<ref>Mishna Brurah 551:34 citing the Eliya Rabba who argues with the Rama. The Eliya Rabba compares it to Chol Hamoed where this is permitted (S"A 543:3). Rabbi Eider (Halachos Of The Three Weeks p. 8) is strict.</ref># Some say that one may prepare one's clothing for the week in which [[Tisha BeAv]] falls (Shevua SheChal Bo) by changing one's clothing on [[Shabbat Chazon]] so that one has enough clothes to wear during the next week.<ref>Orchot Rabbenu (vol 2, p. 130) quoting the StieplerSteipler, [https://www.yutorah.org/sidebar/lecture.cfm/904155/rabbi-hershel-schachter/halachah-shiur-ncsy-kollel-relevant-laws-to-the-9-days-/ Rav Hershel Schachter (Relevant Laws to the Nine Days)]</ref># If [[Tisha BeAv]] falls out on [[Shabbat]] and is pushed off until Sunday, according to most Sephardim, one may launder clothing and wear laundered clothing the week prior to [[Shabbat Chazon]]. However, Ashkenazim don't wear laundered clothing the entire Nine Days in any event. <ref>Yalkut Yosef (Shevua SheChal Bo #11), Yechave Daat 3:39</ref>#A wig/sheitel is considered an article of clothing for the purposes of laundry during the [[nine days]] and therefore one should not wash it or have it set professionally during the [[nine days]]. However, one may curl or set the wig at home, provided that they are not professionals. <ref>Piskei Teshuvot 551:20. Nitei Gavriel 21:5:footnote 8 permits fixing or cutting a wig until the [[nine days]]. </ref>#A Jewish laundromat that would have no money otherwise may wash non-Jews' clothing during this time. <ref>Mishna Brurah 551:43 </ref>#Some say that undergarments which are designed to absorb sweat may be worn freshly-laundered. <ref>[http://halachayomit.co.il/EnglishDisplayRead.asp?readID=2087 Rav Ovadia Yosef on halachayomit.co.il] </ref> Others are strict. <ref>[http://www.dailyhalacha.com/displayRead.asp?readID=3319 Rabbi Eli Mansour] in the name of the Ben Ish Chai, Chacham Bentzion Abba Shaul (Or Lesion 3, p. 248) and the English Yalkut Yosef (pg. 207)</ref>#One is permitted to shine their shoes for Kavod of [[Shabbat]] even during the week of Tisha B'av. <ref>Iggerot Moshe 3:80, Yabea Omer OC 3:31 </ref> ===Children's Clothing=== #According to Ashkenazim, it is permissible to wash children's clothing even the week of Tisha B'av.<ref>Shulchan Aruch O.C. 551:14 is strict about laundering children's clothing during the week of Tisha B'av, but the Rama is lenient. Rabbi Eider (Halachos Of The Three Weeks p. 9) follows the Rama. Ben Ish Chai (Devarim n. 6) and Kaf Hachaim 551:179 write that Sephardim who are lenient to launder children's clothing the week of Tisha B'av shouldn't be protested but it should only be for children three years old and younger. Yalkut Yosef (Mdinei Yemey Tisha B'av n. 13) also writes that the minhag is to be lenient with laundering children's clothing the week of Tisha B'av.</ref> This applies to any children that commonly dirty their clothing.<ref>Rabbi Eider (Halachos Of The Three Weeks p. 9) quotes Rav Moshe Feinstein as holding that it is permitted to launder children's clothing even if they aren't in diapers but constantly soil their clothing with dirt and the like.</ref>#Even if one is doing children's laundry in a laundry machine one may not add other clothing to the load.<ref>Piskei Teshuvot 551:45 quotes the Shraga Hameir 6:162 who writes that adding more clothing to a load during the Nine Days is forbidden since it distracts one from mourning properly.</ref>#One should wash the children's clothing in private.<ref>Mishna Brurah 551:83</ref> ===Towel and Sheets=== #A fresh towel may be used during the Nine Days if the towel one was using became soiled <ref>Kitzur Hilchos Bein Hametzarim p. 10:9. Yalkut Yosef (Mdinei Yemey Tisha B'av n. 13) writes that Sephardim shouldn't launder towels or hand towels during the week of Tisha B'av. </ref>#Bed sheets may not be changed during the Nine Days <ref>Mishna Berura 551:33 </ref> unless they are soiled. However, if a guest arrives during the Nine Days then one may place clean sheets on the bed <ref>Shu”t Tzitz Eliezer 13:61</ref>#In hospitals, it is permitted to clean the linens and clothing because this is done to keep clean for health reasons and not for pleasure. In hotels and motels they can change the linens for new guests because people are disgusted by using what others have already used. <ref>Tzitz Eliezer 13:61 </ref>#A clean tablecloth can be used on Shabbos during the Nine Days <ref>Taz OC 551:4</ref>#A fresh handkerchief may be used only if the old one is dirty and unusable <ref>Shu”t Rivevos Ephraim OC 2:555</ref>
==Showering, Bathing, and Swimming==
 # The minhag in some places is to refrain from bathing during the week which Tisha BeAv falls out and some places have the minhag not to bathe during the Nine Days.<Refref>S”A Shulchan Aruch 551:16 </ref> The Sephardi minhag is only to refrain from bathing in warm water during the week which Tisha BeAv falls out<ref>Yalkut Yosef 551:13</ref>, while the Ashkenazic minhag is to avoid pleasure bathing all 9 days.<ref>Rama 551:16</ref>#If someone is sweaty or dirty it is permitted to shower during the nine days to clean off and not for pleasure.<ref>Aruch Hashulchan 551:37 writes that it is permitted for someone who is dirty to bathe normally since he is doing so for cleanliness and not pleasure. Igrot Moshe EH 4:84:4 writes similarly that someone sweaty on a hot day can shower during the nine days.</ref> Some say that it should only be done with cold water and only with part of the body at a time.<ref>See Shevet Halevi 7:77 who rules that someone sweaty can shower in cold water with part of the body at a time but he adds that it is up to a God-fearing person when to be lenient about this. Vayivarech Dovid 1:74 permits showering to remove sweat even with soap.</ref># The Ashkenazic minhag is not to go swimming in the Nine Days. <Refref>Sh"t Teshuvot VeHanhagot 2:263, Piskei Teshuvot 551:46  # Some Poskim agree that it is OK to go swimming for exercise, but not for fun.[http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/735559/Rabbi_Aryeh_Lebowitz/Halachos_of_the_Three_Weeks Rabbi Ayreh Lebowitz], Moadei Yeshurun (pg 128) quoting Rav Moshe, Halichot Shlomo (Moadim, vol 2, chap 14, note 7), MeBayit Levi (vol 13, pg 22, note 5) quoting Rav Wosner, Sh"t Rivevot Ephraim 3:333, 4:135:14, 6:285:2, and Shevet HaKehati 1:169:4. [http://books.google.com/books?id=k2lV5wQwwj0C&lpg=PA34&ots=yg-xJtgt00&dq=swimming%20during%20the%20three%20weeks&pg=PA12#v=onepage&q=swimming%20during%20the%20three%20weeks&f=false Rabbi Eider] quotes Rav Moshe Iggerot Moshe Even Haezer 4:84 who says even during the [[nine days]] if one is sweating or dirty and wants to wash off it's permissible to dip in the pool for a short time. Shaarim mitzuyanim bihalacha kuntres acharon 122:12 is lenient with children swimming in private area during the [[nine days]], but not in public, like camps.</ref> The Sephardic minhag, however, is to refrain from swimming in cold water during the week in which [[Tisha BeAv]] falls (Shevua SheChal Bo). <ref> Yalkut Yosef (Shevua SheChal Bo #14) writes that strictly speaking the Sephardic minhag would allow swimming in cold water during Shevua SheChal Bo, however, because of danger it's proper to refrain from it. This is the position of Rav Ovadya Yosef in Sh"t Yechave Daat 1:38. [http://www.dailyhalacha.com/displayRead.asp?readID=2181 Rabbi Mansour on dailyhalacha.com] however, writes that swimming during Shevua SheChal Bo is forbidden because of bathing. See also Or Letzion.</ref>#On Friday before Shabbat Chazon some permit someone who always takes a shower on Friday to take a shower before Shabbat.<ref>Rivevot Efraim 4:139 citing Rav Moshe (Rav Eider's Ben Hametzarim p. 13) and Rav Henkin (Approbation of Nechema Yosef)</ref>
==Eating Meat and Drinking Wine==
 # The Ashkenazic and Sephardic custom is to refrain from meat, poultry, and wine during the [[nine days]]. <ref>The gemara Baba Batra 60b quotes the opinion of Rabbi Yishmael Ben Elisha that after the destruction of the Beit HaMikdash, it would have been appropriate for the rabbis to ban eating meat and drinking wine in order to properly mourn. However, since most of the congregation would not be able to abide by this, the rabbis never made it. Biur HaGra OC 551:9 writes that this is the source for refraining from eating meat and drinking wine prior to Tisha B'Av, that although it is impossible to ban eating meat and drinking wine throughout the year, it is possible to refrain from meat and wine for a short period of time. The Gemara in Taanit 30a discuss the prohibition of eating meat during the seudat hamafseket prior to tisha b'av. Rambam Hilchot Taaniot 5:6 says that the custom is to extend the prohibition beyond that meal. He says that some don't eat meat during the week of tisha b'av, and some don't eat from [[rosh chodesh]] av and onward. Shulchan Aruch 551:9 writes that there are three customs about not eating meat and drinking wine; some refrain only for the week on [[Tisha BeAv]], some refrain for the [[nine days]] (from [[Rosh Chodesh]] Av), some refrain for the whole three weeks.</ref>Ashkenazim include [[Rosh Chodesh]] in this prohibition,<ref>Mishna Brurah 551:58 writes that the Ashkenazic custom is not to eat meat or drink wine for the [[nine days]] including [[Rosh Chodesh]] Av but excluding [[Shabbat]] (Mishna Brurah 551:59). This is also written in the [http://www.torah.org/advanced/weekly-halacha/5762/devarim.html Weekly Halacha by Rabbi Neustadt].</ref> while Sephardim are lenient regarding the day of [[Rosh Chodesh]] itself and some Sephardim are strict. <Refref> Sh"t Yechave Daat 1:41, Moed Likol Chai 9:15, [http://www.doresh-tzion.co.il/QAShowAnswer.aspx?qaid=97492 Rav Bentzion Mussafi], and Kaf Hachayim 551:125 write that the Sephardic custom is to refrain from eating meat and wine during the [[nine days]], but on [[Rosh Chodesh]] the minhag is to be lenient. However, they add that some are strict. See also Chazon Ovadyah (Arba Taniyot pg 169), [http://www.dailyhalacha.com/displayRead.asp?readID=2184 Rabbi Mansour on dailyhalacha.com], and Halachot and History of The [[Three Weeks]] (by Rabbi Shlomo Churba, pg 37) who all write that the Sephardic custom is not to eat meat, poultry or wine in the [[nine days]]. </ref># Some say that there is what to rely on to have meat leftovers from [[Shabbat]] during the [[nine days]], while others forbid. <Refref>Chazon Ovadyah (Arba Taniyot pg 177) writes that there is what to rely on, as does the Torat Moadim 5:46. Birkei Yosef 551:6 says that in order to encourage proper for fulfillment of the meal itself we allow the leftovers to be eaten later. However, the [http://www.torah.org/advanced/weekly-halacha/5762/devarim.html Weekly Halacha by Rabbi Neustadt] quotes Sh"t Igrot Moshe 4:21(4) who forbids (see there). Aruch Hashulchan 551:24 also forbids it, also see Piskei Teshuvot 551:34. Kaf Hachayim 551:144 says that for melave malka one is permitted to eat meat leftovers as long as he doesn't prepare extra for [[shabbat]] with the intention of having leftovers. [http://www.dailyhalacha.com/displayRead.asp?readID=950 Rabbi Eli Mansour] quotes that Rav Chaim Palachi allows this while Chacham Benzion Abba Shaul says it's better not to. Rabbi Mansour also says that for the remainder of the week kids can eat it lechatchila and if adults eat it one cannot rebuke them. Piskei Teshuvot 551:34 says there are some poskim who permit eating meat for melave malka for someone who usually eats meat for melave malka. </ref># One who needs Although the custom is not to eat meat for health reasons such as a child, pregnant woman, nursing woman, or an elderly or sick person drink wine during the [[nine days]], stores that sell meat or wine may continue to sell meat or wine because someone who is permitted to eat meatit, but if he can eat chicken that is preferablesuch as a sick person or for a seudat mitzvah may need it. <ref> Mishna Brurah 551Iggerot Moshe 4:64. Yechave Daat 1:41 adds that if they do, they are not required to make a [[hatarat nedarim]]. </ref>#It is preferable not to even feed children meat 112 </ref> One is permitted to leave his meat restaurant open during the [[nine days]], but if you do you may have on because the people who to rely. <ref>Magen Avraham 551:31 says you can give children are eating meat even during the week [[nine days]], without the availability of tisha b'av because we never had the minhag for kids kosher meat, may go to mourn. However, a non-kosher restaurant but he adds that this is should preferably serve only true for chicken. <ref>Yechave Daat 3:38. For more on whether a child below the age of meat restaurant may remain open, see [[chinuch]], meaning a child who doesn't understand what we mournhttp://www.koltorah.org/ravj/Restaurants%20Serving%20Meat%20During%20the%20Nine%20Days. Mishna Brurah 551htm Rabbi Chaim Jachter:70 and Shaar Hatziyun 551:76 say that although there is no requirement for Restaurants Serving Meat During the child to mourn for Nine Days] </ref>#One may taste the beit hamikdash, meat food on erev [[shabbat]] during the prohibition of feeding children prohibited items discussed in SA OC 343 extends [[nine days]] but should try not to things that are only prohibited by custom and therefore one shouldn't feed meat to his kids unless for health reasons and the reason the Rama permitted swallow any meat ingredients. <ref>Shemirat [[HavdalahShabbat]] wine for children was for a mitzva. Iggerot Moshe 4Kihilchita 42:2161 since the Magen Avraham 250:4 says even to feed 1 quotes the Arizal that this is part of the children meat on Friday afternoon before mitzva of kavod [[shabbat]] would to taste the food to make sure it tastes good. </ref>#One should not be allowed unless they usually eat their [[Friday night meal]] at that hour. Based refrain from eating meat on Shabbat during the Magen Avraham 551:31nine days, Rabbi David Yosef in torat hamoadim Siman 5 page 190 says there or even if Tisha B'av falls out on Shabbat and is ample room to be lenient in this casepushed off until Sunday, one should eat meat on that Shabbat. Aruch Hashulchan <ref>Mishna Brura 551:26 as well says there is room to be lenient, especially in a case where it is a weak child who can gain a lot from eating the meat. </ref59 </ref># Although the custom One is not permitted to eat buy meat or drink and wine during the [[nine Nine days]] for use after the [[Nine days]]if there is a sale, stores that sell meat or wine may continue to sell meat or wine because someone who is permitted to eat it, such as a sick person or for a seudat mitzvah may need ithe won't have time afterwards. <ref> Iggerot Moshe 4:112 </ref> #One is permitted to leave his should refrain from eating food cooked with meat.<ref>Although Shulchan Aruch 551:10 says that some allow you to eat foods cooked with meat restaurant open during the [[nine days]], because the people who are eating meat during Mishna Brura 551:63 and Kaf Hachaim 551:142 say that the [[nine days]], without the availability of kosher meat, may go custom is to a non-kosher restaurant but he should preferably serve only chickenrefrain from doing so. Ish Matzliach footnotes to Mishna Brura 551:10:note 4 agrees. </ref> Yechave Daat 3:38. For more on whether a Nevertheless, one is permitted to eat food that was cooked in meat pots, as long as no meat restaurant may remain openwas cooked with it, see [http://www.koltorah.org/ravj/Restaurants%20Serving%20Meat%20During%20the%20Nine%20Daysand one cannot taste the taste of the meat in his food.htm Rabbi Chaim Jachter<ref>Mishna Brurah 551: Restaurants Serving Meat During the Nine Days] </ref> # One may taste the 63, Kaf Hachayim 551:142, Orchot Chaim 31, Nitei Gavriel 38:5. Shaar Hatziyun 551:68 writes that even if a small piece of meat that will not be tasted fell into a dish, it may still be eaten. </ref> Parve food on erev [[shabbat]] which looks like meat may be eaten during the [[nine days]] but should try not to swallow any meat ingredientsNine Days. <ref> Shemirat [[Shabbat]] Kihilchita 42:61 since the Magen Avraham 250:1 quotes the Arizal that this is part of the mitzva of kavod [[shabbat]] to Nitei Gavriel 38:6</ref>#If, by mistake, one recited a blessing over meat or wine, he should taste the food to make sure it tastes gooda bit so that his blessing will not have been in vain. </ref># One should not refrain from eating meat Sdei Chemed (Bein ha-Metzarim 1:4). See also the topic of mistakenly making a Bracha on food on Shabbat during the nine days, or even if Tisha B'av falls out on Shabbat and is pushed off until sunday, one should eat meat on that Shabbata fast day at [[Fast_Days#Other_Halachas_of_fast_days]].</ref>Mishna Brura 551:59 </ref> # One Since the minhag is permitted not to buy meat and drink wine during the , a question arises as to what we should do with [[Nine daysHavdalah]] for . For Sephardim one is permitted to use after the [[Nine days]] if there is a sale, or he won't have time afterwards. wine and drink it as usual <ref> Iggerot Moshe 4Shulchan Aruch 551:112 10. Yalkut Yosef page 574 adds that one may drink the entire cup. </ref># One is permitted to eat food that was cooked in meat pots, as long as no meat was cooked with it, and one cannot taste the taste of the meat in his food. while for Ashkenazim there are several possibilities. <ref> Mishna Brurah The Aruch HaShulchan 551:63, Kaf Hachayim 26 says some people have the Minhag to drink beer or another drink that qualifies as Chamar Medina. The Eshel Avraham 551:142and the Chazon Ish (quoted in Imrei Yosher, Orchot Chaim 31, Nitei Gavriel 38:5pg. Shaar Hatziyun 551:68 writes 4) says that even if a small piece of meat that will not be tasted fell into a dish, it may still be eaten. </ref> Parve food which looks like meat may be eaten those who say [[Havdalah]] every week over wine or grape juice should do the same during the Nine Daysas well. <ref>Nitei Gavriel 38Rav Moshe Harari in his Mikraei Kodesh 1:6</ref># If, by mistake14 say it is preferable to use grape juice as this doesn't cause any joy, one recited a blessing over meat or wine, he should taste a bit so that his blessing will not have been and Rav Moshe Karp in vainHilchot UMinhagei Ben HaMetsarim chapter 4 note 74 says that in this situation an adult can drink it lechatchila. <ref> Sdei Chemed (Bein ha-Metzarim 1Rama 551:4). See also the topic of mistakenly making 10 says to preferably give it to a Bracha on food on child. Mishna Brurah 551:70 says that it should be a fast day at minor above the age of [[Fast_Days#Other_Halachas_of_fast_dayschinuch]]. </ref> # Since but doesn't fully comprehend the minhag is not to drink wine, a question arises as to what we should do with concept of [[Havdalahmourning]]the destruction of the beit hamikdash. For sephardim one is permitted to use wine and drink it as usual <ref> Shulchan Aruch 551:10. Yalkut Yosef Rav Moshe Feinstein quoted in Moadei Yeshurun page 574 adds that one may 154 says the adults should drink the entire cup[[Havdalah]] wine. </ref> while for Ashkenazim there are several possibilities. <ref> The Aruch HaShulchan Darkei Moshe 551:26 9 says some people have in the name of the Minhag to drink beer or another drink Maharil that qualifies as Chamar Medinathis can be done lechatchila. The Eshel Avraham See piskei teshuvot 551 :35 and the Chazon Ish (quoted in Imrei Yosher, pg. Hilchot UMinhagei Ben HaMetsarim chapter 4) says that those note 74 for more poskim who say this. </ref>#Even somebody who normally uses a cup of wine for [[HavdalahBirkat HaMazon]] every week over wine or grape juice , should do the same not during the Nine Days as well[[nine days]] except for on [[Shabbat]]. Rav Moshe Harari in his Mikraei Kodesh 1<ref>Rama 551:10 with Mishna Brurah 551:14 say it is preferable to use grape juice as this doesn't cause any joy69, and Rav Moshe Karp in Hilchot UMinhagei Ben HaMetsarim chapter 4 note 74 says that in this situation an adult can drink it lechatchila. Rama 551Kaf Hachayim 551:10 says to preferably give it to a child152. Mishna Brurah 551:70 says that it should be a minor above the age of </ref>#One may eat meat on [[chinuchShabbat]] but doesn't fully comprehend during the concept of Nine Days.<ref>Shulchan Aruch 552:10</ref> If one began a meal on [[mourningShabbat]] and it continued into the destruction of the beit hamikdash. Rav Moshe Feinstein quoted night, one may continue to have meat, however, some are strict in Moadei Yeshurun page 154 says the adults should drink the [[Havdalah]] winethis situation. Darkei Moshe 551<ref>Nitei Gavriel 38:9 says in 4</ref>#Although the name of custom is not to drink wine during the Maharil that this can be done lechatchila. See piskei teshuvot 551:35 nine days, one may drink beer, whiskey, liquor, cognac and Hilchot UMinhagei Ben HaMetsarim chapter 4 note 74 for more poskim who say thisarak. </ref> # Even somebody who normally uses a cup of wine for [[Birkat HaMazon]][http://www.dailyhalacha.com/m/halacha.aspx?id=2730 Drinking Liquor, should not during Beer and Cognac During the [[nine daysNine Days]] except for on [[Shabbat]]. <ref> Rama by Rabbi Eli Mansour, Ish Matzliach footnotes to Mishna Brura 551:10 with Mishna Brurah 5519:69, Kaf Hachayim 551:152. note 5 </ref> === Children ===# One may who needs to eat meat on [[Shabbat]] during the Nine Days.<Ref>Shulchan Aruch 552:10</ref>If one began for health reasons such as a meal on [[Shabbat]] and it continued into the nightchild, one may continue a pregnant woman, a nursing woman, or an elderly or sick person is permitted to have eat meat, however, some are strict in this situationbut if he can eat chicken that is preferable.<Refref>Nitei Gavriel 38Mishna Brurah 551:64. Yechave Daat 1:441 adds that if they do, they are not required to make a [[hatarat nedarim]]. </ref># Although the custom It is preferable not to drink wine feed children meat during the [[nine days]], one but if you do you may drink beer, whiskey, liquor, cognac and arakhave on who to rely. <ref> [httpMagen Avraham 551://www31 says you can give children meat even during the week of tisha b'av because we never had the minhag for kids to mourn.dailyhalacha.com/m/halacha.aspx?id=2730 Drinking Liquor, Beer and Cognac During However, he adds that this is only true for a child below the Nine Daysage of [[chinuch]] by Rabbi Eli Mansour, Ish Matzliach footnotes to Mishna Brura 551meaning a child who doesn't understand what we mourn. [https:9:note 5 </ref>===Seudat Mitzva===# One may eat meat at a meal for a mitzvah such as /www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/890440/rabbi-hershel-schachter/are-children-obligated-in-observances-that-commemorate-the meal -destruction-of -the-beis-hamikdash-/ Rav Hershel Schachter ]explains that although normally a [[Brit Milah]] and this includes the relatives and friend invited child is not obligated to observe practices of a mourner, even when he reaches the meal howeverage of chinuch, it doesn’t include those who just walk in the practice of not eating meat is not a function of mourning (as a mourner during shiva is allowed to eatmeat and drink wine.) Instead, it is part of the obligation to mourn and remember the Beit Hamikdash. <Ref> Chazon Ovadyah (Arba Taniyot pg 196-7See Gemara Baba Batra 60b). Rama 551:10 allows eating Children do not have an obligation to observe the laws of mourning, but they do have an obligation to remember the beit hamidkash. Therefore they refrain from eating meat for a seudat mitzva, and drinking wine during the nine days once they have reached the Taz there explains that only someone would normally be invited age of chinuch.<br>Mishna Brurah 551:70 and Shaar Hatziyun 551:76 say that although there is no requirement for the child to this seudamourn for the beit hamikdash, may partake the prohibition of feeding children prohibited items discussed in this meat seuda during this time. If the bris is scheduled SA OC 343 extends to be performed before things that are only prohibited by custom and therefore one shouldn't feed meat to his kids unless for health reasons. The reason that the Rama permitted [[nine daysHavdalah]], even if it has already been postponed, Shaare Teshuva 551wine for children was because Havdala is a mitzva. <br>Shu"t Iggerot Moshe 4:21:10 4 says you cannpot postpone any further even to allow eating feed the children meat, and one who does this is considered someone who breaches fenceson Friday afternoon before [[shabbat]] would not be allowed unless they usually eat their [[Friday night meal]] at that hour. </refbr># One may eat meat at a meal held for a siyum and this includes Based on the friends and family invited to the meal. <Ref>Chazon Ovadyah (Arba Taaniyot pg 196-8)Magen Avraham 551:31, Rabbi David Yosef in Torat Hamoadim Siman 5 page 190 says there is ample room to be lenient in this case. Although the Rama Aruch Hashulchan 551:10 writes that one should minimize the amount of guests invited 26 as well says there is room to this mealbe lenient, Rav Moshe Feinstein and Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach (cited especially in Nitei Gavriel 18:7), rule that if the one a case where it is a weak child who completes can gain a lot from eating the masechet eats in a communal dining room meat.<br> Rabbi Eider (such as a camp or hotelThe Halachos Of The Three Weeks p. 7), all those who writes that generally the minhag not to eat with him may participatemeat even applies to children. Rav Moshe Feinstein quoted in Moadei Yeshurun page 132 says that preferably one shouldn't hold a siyum of a masechet after But if it is hard to feed a child dairy and he is used to eating meat every day he can continue to eat meat in the sixth of avNine Days. Aruch Hashulchan 551:28 says that since nowadays we do not properly celebrate the Torah, preferably no siyums should be held during the [[nine days]]. </</ref># One ===Siyum and Seudat Mitzva=== #One may eat meat at a meal held for a mitzvah such as the meal of a [[Bar MitzvahBrit Milah]] only if it’s held and this includes the day that relatives and friend invited to the son becomes 13meal however, it doesn’t include those who just walk in to eat. <ref>Chazon Ovadyah (Arba Taniyot pg 200196-7). Rama 551:10 allows eating meat for a seudat mitzva, Halichot Shlomo (Moadim vol 2 pg 415)and the Taz there explains that only someone would normally be invited to this seuda, Yad Yitzchak 3:230, Yad Efrayim 551:31, Divrei Yatziv 2:238may partake in this meat seuda during this time. Even though this If the bris is not mentioned by scheduled to be performed before the Rama 551:10 as one of the meals [[nine days]], even if it has already been postponed, Shaare Teshuva 551:10 says you can eat cannot postpone any further to allow eating meat for, Magen Avraham 225:4 says that a bar mitzva and one who does this is considered someone who breaches fences. </ref>#One may eat meat at a meal is held for a seudat mitzva, because just like siyum on a masechet is and this includes the celebration of friends and family invited to the culmination of a mitzva, so too a bar mitzva is celebrating culminating meal. <ref>Chazon Ovadyah (Arba Taaniyot pg 196-8). Although the Rama 551:10 writes that one should minimize the mitzva amount of [[chinuch]guests invited to this meal, Rav Moshe Feinstein and Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach (cited in Nitei Gavriel 18:7), rule that if the one who completes the masechet eats in a communal dining room (such as a camp or hotel), all those who eat with him may participate. Rav Moshe Feinstein quoted in Moadei Yeshurun page 132 says that preferably one shouldn't hold a siyum of a masechet after the sixth of av. Aruch Hashulchan 551:28 says that since nowadays we do not properly celebrate the Torah, preferably no siyums should be held during the [[nine days]]. </ref># A siyum can be made on a masechta of gemara, seder of mishna, or book of Tanach studied with the rishonim.<ref>Rav Eider in Halachos Of The Three Weeks p. 7</ref>#Some say that from the 7th of Av they shouldn't serve meat at a siyum.<ref>Rav Moshe Feinstein (cited by Rav Eider in Halachos Of The Three Weeks p. 7) holds that after the 7<sup>th</sup> of Av they should not serve meat even at a siyum.</ref>#One may eat meat a meal held for a [[Bar Mitzvah]] only if it’s held the day that the son becomes 13. <ref>Chazon Ovadyah (Arba Taniyot pg 200), Halichot Shlomo (Moadim vol 2 pg 415), Yad Yitzchak 3:230, Yad Efrayim 551:31, Divrei Yatziv 2:238. Even though this is not mentioned by the Rama 551:10 as one of the meals you can eat meat for, Magen Avraham 225:4 says that a bar mitzva meal is a seudat mitzva, because just like siyum on a masechet is the celebration of the culmination of a mitzva, so too a bar mitzva is celebrating culminating the mitzva of [[chinuch]]. </ref># If a person missed hearing the siyum itself a rav should be consulted.<ref>Rav Eider in Halachos Of The Three Weeks p. 8 writes that it seems to him to be permitted to eat from the meal even if he missed hearing the siyum but he concludes that a rav should be consulted. </ref>
==Weddings==
see [[Three_Weeks# The Sephardic minhag is not to get married Weddings|Weddings during the Nine Days <Ref>S”A 551:2 </ref>, while the Ashkenazic minhag is not to get married anytime in the [[Three Weeks]]. <Ref>Rama 551:2 </ref> # Even if the man has not yet fulfilled the mitzvah of Pru Urevu the minhag is not to get married during the Nine Days including [[Rosh Chodesh]]. <Refref>Yalkut Yosef (Moadim p. 560) </ref>
==Trips and Pleasurable activities==
# Some say that one shouldn't take a pleasure trip during the [[nine days]], while others disagree. <ref>Rivevot Efraim 1:374 quotes one gadol who said that it was forbidden to take pleasurable trips during the [[nine days]]. Afterwards, he writes that this is hard to understand and isn't included in the prohibition of binyan shel simcha.</ref>
# It is permitted to have one's grass cut during the [[nine days]], however, one should refrain from doing so on [[Tisha BeAv]].<Ref>Rivevot Efraim 1:374 quoting Rav Moshe Bick, Rav Chaim Pinchas Scheinberg, and Rav Munk writes that it is permitted to cut one's grass during the [[nine days]], but on [[Tisha BeAv]] itself one should be strict not to.</ref>
#Some say that one shouldn't take a pleasure trip during the [[nine days]], while others disagree. <ref>Rivevot Efraim 1:374 quotes one gadol who said that it was forbidden to take pleasurable trips during the [[nine days]]. Afterwards, he writes that this is hard to understand and isn't included in the prohibition of binyan shel simcha.</ref>#It is permitted to have one's grass cut during the [[nine days]], however, one should refrain from doing so on [[Tisha BeAv]].<ref>Rivevot Efraim 1:374 quoting Rav Moshe Bick, Rav Chaim Pinchas Scheinberg, and Rav Munk writes that it is permitted to cut one's grass during the [[nine days]], but on [[Tisha BeAv]] itself one should be strict not to.</ref> ==ShehecheyanuBuying Clothing== # It There is a restriction on buying new items which would warrant a Shehechiyanu during the entire [[Three Weeks]] ( [[Three_Weeks#Saying_Shehecheyanu]]).#In the Nine Days in particular, it is forbidden to buy new clothes even if there is no Shehechiyanu. <ref>Rama 551:7 </ref> This practice applies to Ashkenazim and also Sephardim.<ref>The Rama 551:7 writes that since it is forbidden to mend a garment during the nine days, certainly it is forbidden to buy a new garment then. The Kaf Hachaim 551:21 explains that according to Shulchan Aruch this is permitted. Shulchan Aruch 551:2 only forbids buying items during the nine days if it leads to happiness such as buying an item for a wedding, but not in general. This also seems to be the opinion of the Ben Ish Chai (Shana Rishona, Devarim no. 2). See, however, Shulchan Aruch 554:22. Mikraei Kodesh (Ben Hametzarim 13:2) quotes Rav Mordechai Eliyahu as being strict about buying garments during the nine days and Rav Ovadia Yosef as being lenient. Yet, Chazon Ovadia (Ben Hametzarim p. 208) seems to accept the custom that one should be strict not to buy new garments during the nine days. Or Letzion 3:26:2 is strict.</ref>#The Ashkenazic minhag is not to wear new clothing during the Nine Daysincludes Shabbat of the Nine Days.<ref>Magen Avraham 551:7 and Mishna Brurah 551:9 write that it is forbidden to wear new garments during the Nine Days including Shabbat. Even though the Biur Halacha 551:6 s.v. kelim says it is permitted to wear a new undershirt on Shabbat Chazon, the Piskei Teshuvot 551:26 quotes Rav Sraya Deblitzky in his sefer Tisha Bav Shechal Byom Eched who is bothered by the seeming contradiction in the Mishna Brurah.</ref> ==The Week Tisha B'av Falls Out== #Sephardim may not cut their hair, shave, do laundry, or wear newly laundered clothing the week of Tisha B'av.<ref>Mishna Tanit 26b, Rambam Taniyot 5:6, Shulchan Aruch O.C. 551:3<Ref/ref>S”A Ashkenazim are strict about hair cutting and shaving for all Three Weeks and laundry for all Nine Days.<ref>Rama 551:7 4</ref> Most #If Tisha B'av falls out on Shabbat and is pushed off until Sunday, according to Sephardim the practices of these halachot are the same as weeks before Tisha B'av do not apply that year.<ref>Rabbi Ba in Yerushalmi Tanit 4:6 explains that if Tisha B'av falls out on Shabbat and the fast is delayed until Sunday the restrictions of the week of Tisha B'av don't apply. The Rosh (Tanit 4:32) and Ran (Tanit 9b s.v. yerushalmi) accept the Yerushalmi. However, the Smag (Asin Derabbanan 3) writes the minhag is to forbid the entire week of Tisha B'av even when it falls out on Shabbat. Hagahot Maimiyot (Taniyot 5:5), Smak 96, and Kol Bo (Feldheim 5769 Edition, 62 s.v. vkesat, fnt. 148) agree. Shulchan Aruch O.C. 551:4 rules like the Yerushalmi. Rama is strict because either way Ashkenazim don't launder clothing or wear laundered clothing for the [[all Nine Days and don't cut their hair all Three Weeks]], so see the [[Three_Weeks#Saying_Shehecheyanu]].</ref>
==Links==
 * Article on [http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/711706/Rabbi_Josh_Flug/The_Laws_Of_Bein_HaMetzarim The Laws Of Bein HaMetzarim] by Rabbi Josh Flug* [http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/796035/Rabbi_Hershel_Schachter/Halachos_of_the_Nine_Days_and_Rosh_Chodesh Halachos of the Nine Days and Rosh Chodesh] by Rabbi Hershel Schachter* [http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/735779/Rabbi_Aryeh_Lebowitz/Halachos_of_the_Nine_Days Halachos of the Nine Days] by Rabbi Aryeh Lebowitz 
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